I know we are all happy to learn that the science disputes this myth. Older people have not only the capacity, but so often, the desire to learn new things. Research shows seniors respond well to new stimulation. We are open to change and embrace the opportunity to explore novel situations, ideas, and activities—all important considerations when looking at a person’s ability and/or desire to adapt to new situations and make informative choices. When exposed to new activities, the real truth is, an older person’s openness to new and novel experiences even increases!
MYTH: As people grow older, they become less happy.
May 2, 2020
Fifty-five percent of younger people believe this to be true about seniors. Interestingly, the facts are just the opposite: people fifty and younger fall into the highest brackets of unhappy folks, with those very ones making the judgments about older adults being the most unhappy! The twenty to thirty-four age bracket, consistently experiences the greatest levels of unhappiness. Other negative feelings, such as anger, stress, and worry all show a pronounced improvement with age.
Why are older people, on average, happier and less stressed than younger people? It seems we seniors experience a sense of increased “wisdom” and greater emotional intelligence with age (at least through middle age). Many studies support the findings that older people have an increased ability to self-regulate their emotions and view their situations more optimistically than younger people. Additionally, older folks recall fewer negative memories than younger adults. We don’t seem to continually run depressing scenarios in our heads. Instead, more often we find a balance, which allows us to appreciate the positive aspects of life rather than letting the negative ones enfold us.
More study is needed to understand this trend, but the signs point to a sizable uptick on the happiness meter after fifty. Now, that’s good news!
MYTH: Seniors Can’t Understand Things as Well as Young People
March 12, 2020
My first reaction when I read the research on this was, you are kidding, right? It turns out that, sadly, it’s true. There even exists a name for this way of communicating with older adults: elderspeak. The term elderspeak first appeared in the mid-1980s, and since then has entered the lexicon as yet another way to describe discrimination against older people. What is elderspeak? It is (most often) the unconscious practice of younger people to slow down and simplify their speech patterns and word choices when talking to older folks. Younger people also turn up the volume and take on a slightly, or even overt, patronizing tone. Lovely, no?
The belief at the
core of this myth is that somehow when we have some years of life and
experience under our belts, and some gray hair, our brains suddenly lose the
ability to understand complex sentences, or abstract concepts, or anything else
beyond what we learned in fourth grade. The knowledge we acquired in graduate
school, or all the technical training we received immediately evaporates and
our brains turn to mush, just like the diet we should be on now. I wish I knew
where this belief started, as the originator should be put in a pit with angry
How can we help dispel this myth? We need to reeducate the young,
one at a time: Gently, but insistently, let the young person know we still have
all our faculties, and that they may speak to you as they would to a
contemporary. We must be the change we wish to see in the world.
MYTH: Most Older Adults live in Nursing Homes and Cannot Get Around by Themselves
February 15, 2020
This myth makes me so angry I could rip the fender off a tractor-trailer with my pinky– the one on my bad hand. The real truth is that only about 5% of older adults live in nursing homes, and most are totally mobile, according to the statistics from the government’s Office of Disease Prevention and Health Promotion,5%! With the number of ads showing a family putting the feeble mother-in-law in a home, or a grandparent who needs a nurse around the clock, it is no wonder folks in the US, and especially the younger ones, think all seniors live in Final Acres Retirement Village.
Most seniors today live in their own
homes, and many still work, at least part time. Others have downsized into
smaller dwellings to enjoy the freedom from routine yard work and household
maintenance. Many of these folks are just too busy traveling, enjoying
grandchildren, and exploring new hobbies to think about spending any time in a
Last season, even Grace & Frankie’s lovely children sent them to a nursing home, and that lasted about five minutes. Seriously, who could believe Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin should be in a home? That scenario is as ridiculous as it is just plain wrong!
While young people think all older people get dementia, the
facts do not support this belief. A new study from the National Bureau of
Economic Research finds dementia only affects 10.5% of adults sixty-five and
over. Even more good news to refute this myth comes from a large multi-country
European study showing the dementia rate has actually fallen by 23% in the past twenty years, even though people
are now living longer!